Brace yourself- this post is uncharacteristically long for me, but I would love your feedback, so grab a cup of coffee and get cozy.
I wanted to share something that I experienced/ witnessed yesterday that was very unnerving.
I teach home school PE, and yesterday I had an adorable five year old for the first time. She was energetic, outgoing and couldn’t wait to show me all the cheers she had learned from cheerleading practice the previous day.
Before we began, the little girl mentioned all the activities she was involved in and told me she was fat, so she needed to be active to get skinny. I froze. She then told me she had a belly and her mother said it was ugly. Her mom was sitting with us and laughed it off. The mother told me the little girl had a ‘slouching’ problem and this is what she was talking about. Yea right. I looked that little girl in the eyes and told her she was NOT fat, and she was beautiful. It took all I had not to slap her mother into reality.
I don’t have a daughter, but when I do I vow to make her feel beautiful each and every day.
I won’t talk negatively about my body, and I will tell her she gets her strong arms from her mommy.I will tell her she looks gorgeous in her ruffled bathing suit, and NEVER talk about her ‘baby fat’.
I will teach her how to love and respect her body because it is a gift from God. I will show her what it looks like to have a healthy relationship with food, and tell her it is meant for nourishment and fuel, and we will talk about which foods do the best job at providing these things.
I will play with her outside and teach her about fitness. I will talk with her about how it makes her FEEL, not look.
I will definitely make brownies with her on a Sunday night, and she won’t know what a ‘cheat day’ is or how many calories are in the brownies.
At the end of the class the mother asked what AB exercises the little girl could do. She said her daughter exercises three hours a day and is still out of shape. I told her that her daughter is not out of shape and did amazing, so well she was telling ME what exercises to do.
I pray this mother see’s how her words are effecting her beautiful, perfect daughter and will quit with the ‘fat’ talk right now.
Living with an eating disorder is no joke and can ruin your life. If you have a daughter, be gentle with your words and please understand that everything you tell her will have an effect on her. It is easy to think that small comments will be forgotten and not another thought will be given to them, but I am telling you from experience, those small remarks can be thought about for days, weeks, and eventually you are obsessing over these small comments.
Uplift. love. Cherish. Tell her how adorable she looks when she smiles. Instill self- love. Show her what it means to respect her body.
Have a wonderful day, you beautiful, beautiful ladies!